“Tame your inner critic.”

How many times have you heard that advice?
And how many times has it actually worked long term?

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I have a visceral reaction every time I hear phrases like this.

We’re being taught to go to war with ourselves — as if there isn’t already enough

violence in the world.

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And for many women, this just doesn’t work.

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You try to think positively.  You push the feelings down.
You force yourself to “just get on with it.”
You monitor your thoughts so you don’t spiral.
 

You fight harder against the parts of yourself you most want to get rid of.

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And for a while, it can seem like it’s working.

Until the inner critic comes roaring back.
 

Often louder. Harsher. More convincing than before.

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This is not because you’re weak or flawed.
It’s because the approach itself was never designed to create real change.

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So how do you know if this is you?

The inner critic doesn’t show up the same way for everyone.

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Some women hear a voice. Relentless, unkind, impossible to argue with.

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Others feel it more than hear it.

 

A tightening in the chest, a drop in the stomach. Shoulders that never relax. A sense that they are shrinking.

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Some don’t connect it to an inner critic at all. It just feels like who they are.

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You might recognise yourself here:

• Replaying a conversation at 2am and deciding you got it very wrong

• Holding back when it comes to expressing yourself

• Finishing something successfully and going straight to what was wrong

• Saying yes when you meant no, then feeling quietly furious with yourself afterwards

• Feeling exhausted by how much energy it takes to manage yourself all the time

 

What it costs to leave this alone

This isn’t just about being uncomfortable. It shapes your life in ways that are easy to underestimate.

It drains your energy.

It chips away at your confidence.

It affects your relationships.

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After years of working on yourself, it can leave you wondering why nothing seems to truly change.

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Over time, many women stop trusting themselves entirely.

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Eventually, it can begin to feel easier to shrink your life than risk triggering the critic again.

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But what if the problem was never that you were too critical of yourself?

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What if the problem was that you were taught to fight a part of yourself that was never actually the enemy?

 

Because the critic isn’t your enemy

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For many women, the critic formed early as a way to stay safe and connected, to avoid

rejection and shame.  It learned the pain of being too much, or never quite enough.

 

Over time, that voice can become so familiar that it no longer feels protective. It can feel like the truth. It’s hard to step back from something that has been there for so long.

 

And when we only try to silence it, fight it, or push it away, we often end up deepening the very cycle we’re desperate to escape.

 

The goal isn’t to get rid of this part of yourself.

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The goal is to understanding what it’s trying to do for you, and what it might need instead.

 

When that begins to happen, there can be enormous relief.

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Not because you finally conquered yourself.  But because you stopped treating

yourself like the enemy.

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That’s what this workshop is about.

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In this free workshop, you’ll learn:

• Why trying to silence or “tame” the inner critic often makes it stronger — and what creates lasting change instead

• How to recognise your inner critic not just in your thoughts, but in your emotional reactions, shutdown patterns, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and self-doubt

• Why so many intelligent, self-aware women still feel stuck after years of personal development work

• How the inner critic can become embedded in the body and nervous system and why insight alone often isn’t enough to create change

• A simple practice you can begin using immediately to relate to this part of yourself differently,  without shame, force, or fighting

 

This workshop is for you if:

• You’ve done a lot of work on yourself and still feel hijacked by your reactions

• You’re exhausted from constantly managing yourself

• You’re deeply self-aware but still feel stuck in the same emotional patterns

• You’re ready for an approach that isn’t about fighting harder

 

Free workshop • One hour • Live online

After years of trying to fix yourself, this workshop may be the first time your inner critic actually starts to make sense.

Join us by completing the form below.