Suzanne's Newsletter: Renewal Reflections

A quiet space to reconnect with yourself

If you'd like to receive thoughtful reflections and explore practices that help soften the inner critic and strengthen your sense of self, you're welcome to join my newsletter.

Each edition is written for women who don’t want quick fixes—women who want depth, clarity, and a gentler relationship with their own inner world. It’s a calm way to stay close to this work and feel supported as you move from self-doubt toward steadier ground.

If you’d like a sense of my voice and the kind of reflections I share, you can read a few pieces on the blog below. If they resonate, I’d be glad to have you join the newsletter!

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When Perfectionism Isn't About Standards — It's About Safety

After a recent session, something stayed with me. A woman said, almost apologetically, "Rest makes me nervous. It feels like I'm doing something wrong. I get really uncomfortable." That quiet fear? I hear it constantly — not because it's rare, but because it's woven through so many of the women I work with. We often talk about perfectionism as if it's about high standards or impressive work ethic. But when we really listen beneath the surface, perfectionism is usually somethi

Suzanne Milligan

Dec 9, 20254 min read

When Feeling Calm Feels Too Hard

After the running the recent Wisdom Within workshop, something struck me: some women described feeling a deep calm, a soft quietness, a sense of finally feeling themselves again. Others said something different: "I wanted to feel calm… but I couldn't reach anything. My mind was racing." I want to talk about this today — because what feels like a "lack of calm" is often something else entirely. Why Some People Can Access Calm… and Others Can't (Yet) When we've spent decades ho

Suzanne Milligan

Dec 2, 20252 min read

You Don't Have to Create Calm, Curiosity, or Connection — Only Learn to Uncover Them

What if everything you're searching for is already here? In Internal Family Systems (IFS), these qualities are signs that our Inner Guide — what the model calls Self — is leading. In Buddhism, the same essence is described as buddha nature . Other spiritual traditions have their own words for it. Different names, same wonderful human truth. This isn't something we earn, achieve, or add on top of ourselves. It's part of who we are — our natural state. The problem is, most of

Suzanne Milligan

Nov 4, 20254 min read

Your Body Knows What You Need

The body knows. I was in the middle of a conversation last week when I noticed a feeling of butterflies in my stomach. My mind was still forming words, nodding along, but my body had already delivered its verdict: Something's off here. It took another ten minutes before my thinking mind caught up. Oh. I don't actually feel comfortable with what this person is saying to me. My body knew first. This happens more than I used to realise. The tightness in my chest before I unders

Suzanne Milligan

Oct 17, 20253 min read

When Awareness Isn’t Enough: Why Self-Doubt Deepens After 50

By the time we reach 50, most of us have done a lot of inner work.We’ve read the books, attended workshops, maybe even had therapy.We know about our inner critic. We see our patterns. And yet, the self-doubt often feels louder than ever. Why Awareness Isn’t the Same as Change Just recognising the critic or noticing behaviours we don’t like doesn’t automatically bring healing. In fact, once we understand what’s happening but still can’t shift it, the frustration can deepen.

Suzanne Milligan

Oct 10, 20252 min read

Why Silencing Your Imposter Syndrome Backfires (And What Actually Works Instead)

First, let's get the name right... You know that feeling when you're convinced everyone's going to figure out you don't really know what you're doing? That you somehow fooled them into thinking you belong here? Most people call it "Imposter Syndrome," but here's something interesting: researchers actually prefer "Imposter Phenomenon." The word "syndrome" makes it sound like there's something medically wrong with you. But this isn't a diagnosis — it's just a very human way of

Suzanne Milligan

Sep 2, 20254 min read

Listening to the Inner Guide

For many of us, the loudest voices inside are not the wisest ones. They’re the parts of us that learned long ago how to keep us safe — by...

Suzanne Milligan

Aug 21, 20252 min read

The Secret Lives of Your Inner Parts

Here's a look at how inner parts show up in our lives.

Suzanne Milligan

Aug 1, 20255 min read

RENEWAL WITH SUZANNE Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS) online for adults and couples—specialising in self-doubt, the inner critic, and healing intergenerational patterns, with deep experience supporting women over 50.

Suzanne's Newsletter: Renewal Reflections

All Posts

When Perfectionism Isn't About Standards — It's About Safety

When Feeling Calm Feels Too Hard

You Don't Have to Create Calm, Curiosity, or Connection — Only Learn to Uncover Them

Your Body Knows What You Need

When Awareness Isn’t Enough: Why Self-Doubt Deepens After 50

Why Silencing Your Imposter Syndrome Backfires (And What Actually Works Instead)

Listening to the Inner Guide

The Secret Lives of Your Inner Parts

RENEWAL WITH SUZANNE
Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS) online for adults and couples—specialising in self-doubt, the inner critic, and healing intergenerational patterns, with deep experience supporting women over 50.